There are certain things the world does not need to know!
#1. Do not share your plan with anyone
- Failure is an indispensable part of enterprises and it happens to all of us. After the public declaration of our dream and failure in achieving it despite our sincerest efforts, people get the chance to depreciate us and some sensitive souls can’t handle such criticism and mockery, they end themselves in depression and other severe entrenchments. All optimism is changed into deeper pessimism and despair.
- When we don’t share our dreams, we are deeply committed to them internally. We won’t be pressurised by anyone to prepare for it and the best outcomes come from efforts that come directly from our own hearts. In such a state, we won’t have to motivate ourselves by external measures such as inspirational books, movies, and documentaries. True inspiration comes from the bottom of our hearts and how badly we want something.
- It often happens that by proclaiming multiple times our goals, we lose interest and energy in it over time (it’s not applied to all but many others).
- From my own experience, I have come to a conclusion. Be kind and helpful to others but never share your own strategies and plan with them even if they are close to you (Parents are exceptions). Feel free to disagree with it.
#2. Do not talk about the intimate details of your lifestyle
- Ask anyone, and they’d probably tell you that you need to be completely honest to build a strong relationship. Well, there’s no denying that being open and honest about who you are, and what you like and dislike is essential for a healthy relationship.
- Not everyone likes to share the nitty-gritty of their past. Some want to take things to the grave, while others are OK with divulging every detail about their history. No matter how much you’re willing to share, remember that every relationship is unique.
- Not everyone would be blessed with the personal life that they wished for. So if you have one, it’s best you don’t brag about it. Hearing somebody else have everything that you wanted for yourself is not something a lot of people would like.
#3. never talk about how heroic you are
- Bragging about how courageous or brave you are is of no value until you show it when the time comes. Until then, you just sound like a pompous chap.
- Truth. Stay humble. No need to brag or put ones self on a pedestal. People who love you will do that for you.
#4. Never declare how enlightened you are
- In my experience, there’s no good reason to offer that information to someone who is not somewhere on the path.
- When I have tried, the reactions range from confusion, to sideways looks questioning my sanity, to mis-association with religion or telling of related stories or religious beliefs.
- “You have to understand. Most people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured and so hopelessly dependent on the system that they will fight to protect it.” — Morpheus
- I don’t believe in enlightenment. There’s nothing to believe. Do you believe in orgasms? How would you explain one to someone who had never experienced it for themselves? If you were the only one they knew who had experienced one and you tried to describe it they’d think you were nuts.
- Most people are mind-attached. There needs to be a relatable story. A mental concept. A relational connection to a memory, past experience or belief. Some type of content to relay.
- Enlightenment goes beyond the mind to the raw experience of an unattached consciousness. It’s just a connection. A feeling. There is no content. There’s nothing to say.
#5. Never talk about family problems
- If you talk about your family problem with your friends, then it might make you feel good at that time. But when you share your problems more and more, it will become a habit of yours. You will not even realize it when you start discussing all your personal family talks with your friend. It is not advisable to share every family problem with your friends. They will come to know about your weaknesses, and this could be bad for you if someday you and your friend break up. You will stand at the risk of your friend sharing your personal issues with somebody else. It is better to take advice from an expert for all types of family problems. They can help resolve your issues.
#6. Don’t bring up unpleasant things you’ve heard
- This can mean everything… religion, politics, etc. Your beliefs and your political leanings are based on how you have seen things. Expecting everybody else to adhere to your ideas is naivete at best. What if they think likewise and decide that your thought process is incorrect? What do we get then? Arguments. Fights. Warnings. Why even go there?
